Just because a person is in control of their Self does not mean they are in control of others.  Just because other people fall in line behind those with self control does not mean they are being controlled, they are merely seeking control, all the time maintaining their free will… just maybe not their recognition of it.  Don’t blame this lack of consciousness on others, finger pointing at those who possess self control.  They can’t help others responding to this strength and wanting to use it like an umbrella.

Although there are people who do attempt to control others.  These are people who do not possess self control, and although they seek it, they misunderstand it and therefore misplace it.